Ok so a couple of years ago my dear hubby was turning the big 2-5 and I decided to throw him a surprise party. Growing up neither of our birthdays were that big of deals for separate reasons and so as we’ve started our own family and traditions, I’ve decided to make my husband’s and kid’s birthdays big deals (mine still won’t be…not that my husband doesn’t try, but it’s kind of hard when you share your birthday with the Savior of the world…). So I put together a baseball themed surprise party…and it was a huge success! My husband had absolutely no idea and we all had tons of fun. So here are my tips on throwing your own completely successful surprise party (because let’s face it…not all of them are):
1. Enlist Help
I used the help of a couple whom we are really good friends with. The husband is my husband’s best friend and he helped with the distraction (more on that later) and the wife helped me with the invites (also more on that) and decorating. BUT…do not enlist too much help or word might get back to the surprisee! Use your judgment.
2. Mail the Invites
Yes, spend the extra $.46 (is that how much they are now?) over envelope and mail them. See, most of our guests were my husband’s coworkers so I didn’t want to risk them being left out at work. So my friend (who also happen to work with my husband) gathered the addresses for me. I also included for them to RSVP to my phone number so they didn’t accidently call his.
3. Distraction Should be Normal
Don’t send your surprisee on an activity that they never normally do or they’ll be suspicious. I had my husband’s best friend take him fishing after work. Something very normal for us. They went to their usual spot and fished. And because I chose to have the party on a Friday, I had all day while he was at work, plus the fishing time to prepare. Hubster never suspected a thing and was happy to go fishing. Oh and make sure you’re in communication with whoever is helping distract. Just make sure not to make it too many calls or text messages cause that could be suspicious if they’re distracted from the distraction.
4. Pick the Right Day
This goes back to what I said in the previous point. Use your time wisely. If you can have it on a work day then do it! Think of all the extra time you’ll have! If not, try to have your distraction something that will last quite a few hours leading up to the party. You want to have as much time as possible so as to not stress yourself out too much. This party should be fun and not stressful.
5. Plan Birthday as Normal
Something that really bothers me when you see surprise parties on TV is that the guests pretend as if there isn’t even a birthday going on. The poor surprisee thinks everyone has forgotten. Then, surprise! they have a big party. Hmm…I don’t know about you but I would be very suspicious. So with hubby’s party I would ask him what he wanted to do for his birthday. He doesn’t normally have parties so we planned something that he does do (I think we had planned to go visit his sister). I had the party a couple days before his birthday so he didn’t suspect that either!!
6. 30 Minute Time Frame
This is the amount of time you should give guests before you want the surprisee to arrive. I included all this information on the invites. You’ll inevitably have late partygoers so this gives you plenty of time. And provide some food for your guests while they wait. I also had chosen a baseball theme for the party and had paper baseballs hanging around the room with baseball trivia written on them. This gave the guests something to do while they waited.
7. Parking
If possible, have your guests park on a different street. And to make sure your guests do this, include directions (a map is even better) on where you would like them to park. A whole bunch of cars gathered around your house is definitely suspicious.
8. Camera Ready
When it comes time for the surprisee to come home (which you will be aware of because you are in contact with whoever is distracting him) make sure you are camera ready!! I thought I was and then, guess what? My camera didn’t take the pivotal surprise face picture. So sad. But I did get other pictures. I’ll let you enjoy one now.

9. Utilize Alone Time
This one could also be called “Plan Ahead”. Use the time when you are home without the surprisee to get everything ready. I had been working on decorations and plans for weeks prior. I would do just a little a day while he was working (I also had a baby to take care of). Then I would find a hiding place where I knew he would never look.
10. Act Normal
I know that sounds easier than it is but it’s essential. Sure I might have a little advantage since I come from a theatre background but still. Just Nike up and just do it. You can. Don’t get all giggly when you discuss birthdays. Don’t pretend the birthday (or whatever event you’re throwing a party for) isn’t happening. And have fun!!